Expectations...2

Humans have expectations. We have expectations from each other. Even if we wish to have no expectaions from each other, we are having an expectation of no expectation from that person.

We natually have higher expectations from some people over other people. And when these people do not meet our high expectations, we would feel hurt and depressed.

For example, at church, we may have expectations from our cell group to care and support us, but if they are not able to achieve that, we feel distanced from that due to the hurt that is built up from their inability to match our expectations.

On other occasions, we have really low expectations from some people. And when these people meet our low expectations, we would feel a sense of joy and closeness to that person.

For example, at work, we may have no expectations from our collegues to stay back at work at 9pm, when we have something urgent due ourselves. If by change, one of our collegue stays back, we would feel a sense of closest to that person, since his or her presence was out of our expectation.

But ironically, people who we have lower expectations of are not supposed to be close to us, and due to the misunderstanding of our relationships and the meeting of different expectations, we quickly increase our expectations from these people, which they may not be able to meet, resulting in us to think that all people around us are unable to meet our expectations.