Disappointment & Obligations

Disappointment comes from being hurt as a result of certain actions, by others or by ourselves.

When someone else is disappointed in us, it is usually because our actions have hurt them. It may be due to us not being able to meet their expectations.

But in a situation where our actions were not meant to hurt others, but simply done as a result of our obligations due to the role we play, then why would others be hurt? Shouldn't they understand that the actions were based on our obligations, and not based on them? Don't they know that we are also hurt in the process of fulfilling our obligations? Don't they also know that we are also disappointed in ourselves as we may be hurt from our own actions?

Then, why are they disappointed in us if they understand all of this? Shouldn't they see this action in a positive way as we are people of integrity, being able to fulfil our pre-existing obligations? Shouldn't they understand this?

Maybe it is because they think that we have another set of obligations to them which override our obligations from the roles we have. But if they expect all our pre-existing obligations be subordinate to our obligations to them, even when their obligations are trivial as compared to the importance of our pre-existing obligations, then maybe they should readjust their expectations. It is true that we may owe alot of obligations to them, but all obligations are relative to one another, and sometimes our obligations to them may be overridden by our general fraternal obligations. It is at these points in time that they need to understand and support us, not be disappointed to us.