Its over... too

How can you end up a friendship just like that?

If this was going to happen, it should happen at the beginning of the year, after the chat we had with our mediator. After that, I did not contact you for two weeks, as I did not want you to continue to be misled. But you continue to contact me, and confide in me as a friend, and you knew that our relationship was only friends. I tried so hard to treat you in a way that ensured you understood that we were just friends for the past year, and I think I have achieved this.

A few months ago, you organised a dinner with me before Christmas. You said this was important and that we should have that dinner before Christmas.

And at the dinner you told me that we should just end our friendship as emotionally you are not able to cope. Then if that's the case, then why did you continue to act in the same way for the past few months, calling me at 3am in the morning to talk to me when you were upset, and asking me for advice in relation to your life decisions?

Isn't it a bit selfish of you to dictate the terms of our friendship?

And you asked me to tell you what I think you need to improve in terms of your personality. I mentioned things which I and others can see, such as your need to be willing to "walk" with your partner on a path together (and not let him do all the work while you sit back and complain that it is all too hard). I told you that you need to be more appreciative of others (and not just superficially, or talk about your discontentment of them behind their back). You seem to not be able to take these things, and justified that you would be doing these things. I did not say anything further as you were not able to cope.

I think these are your blind spots, and that you will continue to struggle in relationships if you do not deal with these issues.

Maybe it is better this way... I don't know... I respect you as a friend so that was why I allowed you to do whatever you want in this situation. But your actions in this confirmed my comments relating to how you deal with things, and that not everyone can cope with you.