What is love?

Alot of people look for love because they wish to escape the feeling of loneliness. Having a partner will allow them to have someone that they can relate to, both physically and emotionally, as well as someone who can care for them in times of need. They think that one can never be happy being alone and there is a need for a partner in their lives.

This is not necessary true for the following reasons:

1. Being alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. There are so many things you can fill up your lives with, such as hobbies, social activities, etc.

2. Having a partner doesn't necessarily remove your loneliness (if you are lonely) especially if your partner does not understand you truly. The expectation you have of them and the fact that they are not able to meet your expectation may make you more unhappy and distressed.

3. It is true that as you grow older, people around you may have their own families and children and if you are single, you may encounter some sort of loneliness. This will especially be true when you grow old and your parents will no longer be here, and you may feel more alone as you have no immediate family around you. But getting married doesn't guarantee that your partner will be there when you're old. Your partner may die before you do, leaving no offspring, and you end up being in the same state of being alone.


"What is Love? Love is not to be loved, but to love and not expect to be loved." (Gecki, 2006)