When you are single, you are free to do whatever you want, with no consideration for other people. You can make your own decisions, satisfy your own desires, and do what you want to do at your own pace and in your own time. Being single means you have more time on your hands, and you usually fill this time up with other interests. So your life will never be dull or boring.
If you have been single for a while, and you acquire a partner, you will need to readjust your life in order to "fit" that person in. This means forgoing some of your interests, so as to make room in your life for that person. This may be hard for some people to do, and so they will remain single until they learn to do this.
It also means that you may need to make decisions based on the interests of the other person, and not based on what you want. This may be hard, as you are accustomed to making decisions based on what you want.
This will be more difficult if the other person is also accustomed in making their own decisions and they may not easily accomodate your interests. This may lead to a compromised decision - a decision that both parties may not be happy with, since each party is accustomed to what they want normally. This may eventually lead to each party reverting back to their single lifestyle, since they are so accustomed to what each of them wants. It may be difficult for these people to find another person in their lives.
The opposite applies to a person who has been in a relationship for a long time. They are accustomed to having another person with them, and so when they break up, they have alot of free time. These people will tend to find another person relatively quickly after their breakup to fill this vaccum in their lives.
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Hey, arent u forgettin th point of relationship. true u must readjust and fit that person in ur life, but if u truly love that person does it matter? wouldnt u be pleased to do that, and even though u lose ur free time, isnt ur free time used to fill ur loneliness anyways.
i guess the lessson learnt today is that u must choose ur partner carefully
But the irony is that maybe some people are so accustomed to themselves that they are no longer capable of loving someone else apart from themselves. Because loving someone involves some form of sacrifice, but loving yourself is always satisfying your own needs and desires.
"buyer beware"
well if ur not willin to sacrifice, then maybe that person isnt important to you at all?
that you are still self centered and that person basically as u stated, used to satisfy your desire of a partner
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